IMPORTANT REVISIONS TO recently published – THE BOOK OF MATTHEW – Chapter 19, Divorce, Children, The Rich Young Ruler, The Disciple’s Reward

 

THE BOOK OF MATTHEW Chapter 19

Divorce, Children, The Rich Young Ruler, The Disciple’s Reward.

There seems to be no end to the Pharisee’s futile attempts to find fault in Jesus and with His teachings. I say futile because He is making it clear that, (#1), He is the Christ, the long awaited Jewish Messiah, and that He and the Father are one, (#2), He has been sent by God, the Father, and He has come to do His Father’s business; He is doing what He hears from the Father and what He sees the Father doing, and (#3), He has come to testify to the Truth.

Nonetheless, the Pharisees persist in their blind, stubborn, arrogant folly, and Jesus continues to teach and demonstrate The Truth!

Concerning Divorce

Matthew 19:1, When Jesus had finished these words, He left Galilee and came into the region of Judea beyond the Jordan; Verse 2, and large crowds followed Him, and He healed them there.

Verse 3. Some Pharisees came to Jesus, testing Him and asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all? Verse 4. And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE, Verse 5, and said, ‘FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND HIS MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’? Verse 6. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no person is to separate.”

Verse 7. They said to Him, “Why, then, did Moses command to GIVE HER A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE AND SEND HER AWAY?”

Verse 8. He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way. Verse 9. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

Verse 10. The disciples said to Him, “If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.” Verse 11. But He said to them, “Not all men can accept this statement, but only those to whom it has been given. Verse 12. For there are eunuchs who were born that way from their mother’s womb; and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by people; and there are also eunuchs who made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who is able to accept this, let him accept it.

(Commentary Break): It is interesting that the Pharisees continue to question Jesus in order to find fault or to trap Him in a lie in order to persecute Him, or worse. The point here is for you and for me to examine ourselves and ask if we are doing the same as the Pharisees, which is finding all the ‘escape clauses’ to abrogate or negate the Law we say we follow, and in our case, it is NOT the Law but the teachings of Jesus. His teachings and commandments are not meant to tie us or to burden us down as the Law, but are a means to live to live free, to live an abundant life full of His love, joy, grace and hope. His words are a means to guide us, protect us, warn us of dangers and how to avoid them. He love us with a love so deep and complete that we can hardly comprehend it.

Jesus, in this case, is answering the Pharisees’ questions about what their Law says about divorce. Actually, this is an issue that begins as soon as a couple decides to get married. All marriages have their ups and downs, and someone, such as the pastor who marries a couple, should tell them in advance, of the seriousness nature of the wedding vows and the covenant of marriage. These are to be contracts that endure for a  lifetime. This is not only a contract between two people, but is a covenant between each of the two people with God!

The Bible says, “FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND HIS MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no person is to separate.”

The REASON Jesus teaches this is for your ongoing wellbeing and protection, and for the safety and wellbeing of your family and friends.

God made us as emotional beings capable of thought with the power of choice (making decisions). In fact, the Bible tells us that we are made in His image, but with the flaw of a sin nature.

It is helpful to remember that the Bible consistently speaks to the triune God and of our triune nature: (#1), our physical body (from the Greek word, soma), (#2), our soul (from the Greek word pseuche), which includes our mind, will and emotions, and (#3), our spirit (from the Greek word pneuma), which is sometimes referred to as our ‘subconscious mind’ or our core, where we set our life views or core values. It is within this pneuma, or spirit, we hold and store our guiding principles for living. This is how God made us. It is how we are constructed.

Even though most of us are taught how we should think and act by our parents or by others, unfortunately, we initially make many of our decisions based on our own initial experiences and feelings. These initial decisions come from within our soul – our mind, will and emotions.

We will then solidify and galvanize those decisions as they seep down into our core (our heart or spirit). They become what is known as our ‘core-values’ or guiding principles.

Our heart, or spirit dictates, then dictates these decisions back to our soul (our mind, will and emotions), and we act them in our everyday life.

Once these attitudes and behaviors are set, it is very difficult to change them, regardless of the outcome, without suffering great consequences.

Please know that I would not spend all this time on this matter, if it were not so important. But we usually make decisions based on incomplete information, not knowing what the outcome of our decisions will be, and all of this is driven by emotions and preconceived notions. It is the perfect storm for a looming disaster.

Divorce is one of those storms. It is one of the most damaging and damning experiences a person can experience. It has lasting effects on the human psyche, which will affect the body in devastating ways. These are things that will drag you down and haunt you for life unless you deal with them according to the teachings of Jesus. Believe me, His is the only way back to sanity, peace, prosperity and life!

Nonetheless, I know many Christians who seek a divorce because their marriage becomes difficult or inconvenient. So people divorce and the mind, will and emotions justify this course of action. But Scriptures tell us that our spirit knows that we will be committing adultery and will be causing our ex-spouse to commit adultery. But, we go on anyway, living with a hidden remorse, calling ourselves Christians, pretending to follow Jesus, even though we know we have not done what He has told us to do.

(Additionally, when there are children involved, there a numerous studies that show the damage is multiplied in their lives. See “Focus on the Family, “How could divorce affect my children” and “Did God really say that?”)

What the Bible says can sound harsh, but in reality it is a dire warning: Now why do you call Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do what I say? Everyone who comes to Me and hears My words and acts on them, I will show you whom he is like: they are like a person building a house, who dug deep and laid a foundation on the rock; and when there was a flood, the river burst against that house and yet it could not shake it, because it had been well built. But the one who has heard and has not acted accordingly is like the one who built a house on the ground without a foundation; and the river burst against it and it immediately collapsed, and the ruin of that house was great.” (Luke 6:46-49).

And, Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of My Father who is in heaven will enter. Many will say to Me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name, and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many miracles?’ And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; leave Me, you who practice lawlessness.’ (Matthew 7:21-23).

In reality, God is pleading with us to stop the insanity and self-destruction. He loves us. He wants the best for us, which is found in Jesus Christ!

So, what is the solution if you have already committed this sin? This may be hard to hear and even more difficult to do, but it is the way to peace:

Confess your sin, your wrongdoing. Confess to God that you have sinned against Him, against your ex-spouse and against your family. Repent. That is, turn away from ever being disobedient again. Jesus will hear your prayer and forgive you and cleanse you of your unrighteousness. He loves you, unconditionally. He will not condemn you. It is your unbelief that condemns you (see John 3:17).

NOW, if you initialed or even agreed to a divorce, go and tell your ex-spouse of your transgression, and even though you may not be able to rectify or restore what is in the past, you can apologize for your sin against them and seek their forgiveness. (Please be very careful not to compound this issue if your ex-spouse is remarried or if they are violent. Use discretion).

NOTE: If you cannot safely approach, talk to or write your ex-spouse, then take this to God alone, with all sincerity and be cleansed.

Either way, you need to take this as your responsibility even if it was your ex-spouse’s behavior that drove you away (see Matthew 5:22-48). Whether they accept your apology or not, you need not entangle yourself any further. You have cleared the way to go forward with your life.

If you have not yet committed this sin, then stop, and do not do it. You made a covenant with God in your marriage vows. If you divorce you not only break a vow with your spouse, you break you covenant with God and the psychological and physical harm to you will follow.

But please don’t be like the Pharisee and try to find a way around this. Jesus called the Pharisees liars, white washed tombs (looking good but full of dead men’s bones), cheats, and murderers. Please, don’t be those things! Those things will just follow you and drag you down.

NOTE: I realize that this can be a very complicated matter. And sometimes it can be dangerous to approach your ex-spouse. If that is the case, then again I say, take this to God, confess it all to Him. He will cleanse your heart and your mind and set you free.

This is an urgent teaching that even the Church and pastors have ignored and excused for lack of understanding. They are running the risk of being just like the Pharisees!

I also know, this is a very hard teaching. But, which teachings of Jesus are not hard if we persist in living in our fleshly passions? (End Commentary Break).

Jesus Blesses Little Children

Verse 13. Then some children were brought to Him so that He would lay His hands on them and pray; and the disciples rebuked them. Verse 14. But Jesus said, “Leave the children alone, and do not forbid them to come to Me; for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” Verse 15. After laying His hands on them, He departed from there.

(Commentary Break): It seems curious that after His rebuttal to the Pharisees and His teaching on marriage and divorce, that He speaks of the children, is it not? (End Commentary Break).

The Rich Young Ruler

Verse 16. And someone came to Him and said, “Teacher, what good thing shall I do so that I may obtain eternal life?” Verse 17. And He said to him, “Why are you asking Me about what is good? There is only One who is good; but if you want to enter life, keep the commandments.” Verse 18. Then he said to Him, “Which ones?” And Jesus said, “YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT MURDER; YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY; YOU SHALL NOT STEAL; YOU SHALL NOT GIVE FALSE TESTIMONY; Verse 19. HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER; and YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.” Verse 20. The young man said to Him, “All these I have kept; what am I still lacking?” Verse 21. Jesus said to him, “If you want to be complete, go and sell your possessions and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow Me.” Verse 22. But when the young man heard this statement, he went away grieving; for he was one who owned much property.

Verse 23. And Jesus said to His disciples, “Truly I say to you, it will be hard for a rich person to enter the kingdom of heaven. Verse 24. And again I say to you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich person to enter the kingdom of God.” Verse 25. When the disciples heard this, they were very astonished and said, “Then who can be saved?” Verse 26. And looking at them, Jesus said to them, “With people this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

(Commentary Break): The young man, (also referred to as the ‘rich young ruler’), was not so much asking how he many obtain eternal life, as he is asking how he may earn his way to heaven without paying the cost. Our churches are full of people demanding an answer to this same question, regardless of their financial status. They want the benefits of salvation but resist the cost. Please, don’t be like that.

 Jesus, in his answer, uses both hyperbole and a metaphor of a camel trying to squeeze through the eye of a needle, which is something that is ridiculously impossible.

However, Jesus was actually referring to a camel and an actual needle, and that the camel is a simile for ‘every man and women, boy and girl’ and the ‘eye of the needle’ is a simile for the gate to the Kingdom of Heaven.

So, everyone who is laden with ‘the baggage and possessions of pride, high self-esteem, education, personal achievements, wealth, pedigree, education and the like cannot enter the Kingdom. All of these things must first be put aside, discarded, before entering through the ‘narrow gate’.

AN ASIDE and a NOTE: There has been a story circulating, albeit false, which purports that there is actually a gate somewhere in Jerusalem called the “eye of the needle”, through which a camel could not pass unless it stooped down and had all its baggage first removed. After dark, when the main gates were closed, travelers and merchants would have to use this smaller gate. Great sermon material, with illustrations about how we must humble ourselves and remove our baggage before entering the kingdom.

It would be quite convenient if this myth were true because it would legitimize people’s affinity for money and probably the prosperity gospel as well. If the passage is about baggage and humility and not actually about wealth, then the prosperity preachers can breathe a big sigh of relief. However, this myth has been propagated since the 11th century, and it is completely made up. There is zero evidence to show that this gate ever existed other than stories brought back from Jerusalem tours.

But what about this image, showing the eye of the needle? This wall passage did not exist when Jesus walked the earth, or anytime close to his generation. This wall was built hundreds of years after Jesus’ time. The gates of Jerusalem were destroyed in 70 A.D. and later rebuilt. Josephus, the 1st century Jewish historian, wrote about the wall in Jerusalem (excepting the western wall): “All the rest of the wall surrounding Jerusalem, was so thoroughly laid even with the ground by those that dug it up to the foundation, that there was left nothing to make those that came thither believe it Jerusalem had ever been inhabited.” So, the image would not exist in Jesus’ time.

Furthermore, the passage states that is it easier for a camel to go through the eye of “a” needle, not “the” needle. “A needle” refers to any needle. “The needle” would refer to a specific needle. This is not a mistake. Greek is an incredibly precise language, and definite articles (the) are hard to confuse with an indefinite article ‘a’.

Finally, I would point out that this type of hyperbole is common in Jewish literature and as well as other literature. Jesus, again, uses the term of a ‘narrow gate’ in Matthew 7:13-14)

Thus, it is not necessary to try to bend Jesus’ words to mean something other than what they actually meant. This is why the disciples replied with this phrase in astonishment: When the disciples heard this, they were greatly astonished and asked, “Who then can be saved?” (Matthew 19:25)

And looking at them, Jesus said to them, “With people this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” (End Commentary Break).

The Disciples’ Reward

Verse 27. Then Peter responded and said to Him, “Behold, we have left everything and followed You; what then will there be for us?” Verse 28. And Jesus said to them, “Truly I say to you, that you who have followed Me, in the regeneration when the Son of Man will sit on His glorious throne, you also shall sit upon twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel. Verse 29. And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or farms on account of My name, will receive many times as much, and will inherit eternal life. Verse 30. But many who are first will be last; and the last, first.

(Commentary Break): There are scarcely words that can better describe what Jesus has just said to Peter. This is both literal and symbolic. It is literal for Peter and the 12 apostles. It is symbolic in that we, too, will be with them, ruling with Jesus.

“And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or farms on account of My name, will receive many times as much, and will inherit eternal life.” But first, we must go through the eye of that needle! The benefit begins now and lasts for an eternity! (End Commentary Break).

This is all based on faith. You can believe it or not. It is that cut and dried, and it is that extreme.

Even though, after Jesus had risen from the dead and just before He ascended to the Father, on Jesus’ instructions, “the eleven disciples went away into Galilee, to the mountain which Jesus had appointed for them, and when they saw Him, they worshiped Him, although some doubted”, they still had enough faith to follow His instructions to come and meet Him at the mountain. All this from faith the size of a mustard seed!

Jesus accepted and used them in His cause, ministry and calling. He is still doing just that. He is still calling you and me to follow Him despite our doubts.

And we will remain with Him, and He will be with us, both now and eternally!

Just believe!

Your Brother and Friend,

Mike Young.

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THE BOOK OF MATTHEW – Chapter 19, Divorce, Children, The Rich Young Ruler, The Disciple’s Reward

 

THE BOOK OF MATTHEW Chapter 19

Divorce, Children, The Rich Young Ruler, The Disciple’s Reward.

There seems to be no end to the Pharisee’s futile attempts to find fault in Jesus and with His teachings. I say futile because He is making it clear that, (#1), He is the Christ, the long awaited Jewish Messiah, and that He and the Father are one, (#2), He has been sent by God, the Father, and He has come to do His Father’s business; He is doing what He hears from the Father and what He sees the Father doing, and (#3), He has come to testify to the Truth.

Nonetheless, the Pharisees persist in their blind, stubborn, arrogant folly, and Jesus continues to teach and demonstrate The Truth!

Concerning Divorce

Matthew 19:1, When Jesus had finished these words, He left Galilee and came into the region of Judea beyond the Jordan; Verse 2, and large crowds followed Him, and He healed them there.

Verse 3. Some Pharisees came to Jesus, testing Him and asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all? Verse 4. And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE, Verse 5, and said, ‘FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND HIS MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’? Verse 6. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no person is to separate.” Verse 7. They said to Him, “Why, then, did Moses command to GIVE HER A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE AND SEND HER AWAY?” Verse 8. He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way. Verse 9. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

Verse 10. The disciples said to Him, “If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.” Verse 11. But He said to them, “Not all men can accept this statement, but only those to whom it has been given. Verse 12. For there are eunuchs who were born that way from their mother’s womb; and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by people; and there are also eunuchs who made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who is able to accept this, let him accept it.

(Commentary Break): It is interesting that the Pharisees continue to question Jesus in order to find fault or to trap Him in a lie in order to persecute Him, or worse. The point here is for you and for me to examine ourselves and ask if we are doing the same as the Pharisees, which is finding all the ‘escape clauses’ to abrogate or negate the Law we say we follow, and in our case, it is NOT the Law but the teachings of Jesus. His teachings and commandments are not meant to tie us or to burden us down as the Law, but are a means to live to live free, to live an abundant life full of His love, joy, grace and hope. His words are a means to guide us, protect us, warn us of dangers and how to avoid them. He love us with a love so deep and complete that we can hardly comprehend it.

Jesus, in this case, is answering the Pharisees’ questions about what their Law says about divorce. Actually, this is an issue that begins as soon as a couple decides to get married. All marriages have their ups and downs, and someone, such as the pastor who marries a couple, should tell them in advance, of the seriousness nature of the wedding vows and the covenant of marriage. These are to be contracts that endure for a  lifetime. This is not only a contract between two people, but is a covenant between each of the two people with God!

The Bible says, “FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND HIS MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no person is to separate.”

The REASON Jesus teaches this is for your ongoing wellbeing and protection, and for the safety and wellbeing of your family and friends.

God made us as emotional beings capable of thought with the power of choice (making decisions). In fact, the Bible tells us that we are made in His image, but with the flaw of a sin nature.

It is helpful to remember that the Bible consistently speaks to the triune God and of our triune nature: (#1), our physical body (from the Greek word, soma), (#2), our soul (from the Greek word pseuche), which includes our mind, will and emotions, and (#3), our spirit (from the Greek word pneuma), which is sometimes referred to as our ‘subconscious mind’ or our core, where we set our life views or core values. It is within this pneuma, or spirit, we hold and store our guiding principles for living. This is how God made us. It is how we are constructed.

Even though most of us are taught how we should think and act by our parents or by others, unfortunately, we initially make many of our decisions based on our own initial experiences and feelings. These initial decisions come from within our soul – our mind, will and emotions.

We will then solidify and galvanize those decisions as they seep down into our core (our heart or spirit). They become what is known as our ‘core-values’ or guiding principles.

Our heart, or spirit dictates, then dictates these decisions back to our soul (our mind, will and emotions), and we act them in our everyday life.

Once these attitudes and behaviors are set, it is very difficult to change them, regardless of the outcome, without suffering great consequences.

Please know that I would not spend all this time on this matter, if it were not so important. But we usually make decisions based on incomplete information, not knowing what the outcome of our decisions will be, and all of this is driven by emotions and preconceived notions. It is the perfect storm for a looming disaster.

Divorce is one of those storms. It is one of the most damaging and damning experiences a person can experience. It has lasting effects on the human psyche, which will affect the body in devastating ways. These are things that will drag you down and haunt you for life unless you deal with them according to the teachings of Jesus. Believe me, His is the only way back to sanity, peace, prosperity and life!

Nonetheless, I know many Christians who seek a divorce because their marriage becomes difficult or inconvenient. So people divorce and the mind, will and emotions justify this course of action. But Scriptures tell us that our spirit knows that we will be committing adultery and will be causing our ex-spouse to commit adultery. But, we go on anyway, living with a hidden remorse, calling ourselves Christians, pretending to follow Jesus, even though we know we have not done what He has told us to do.

(Additionally, when there are children involved, there a numerous studies that show the damage is multiplied in their lives. See “Focus on the Family, “How could divorce affect my children” and “Did God really say that?”)

What the Bible says can sound harsh, but in reality it is a dire warning: “Now why do you call Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do what I say? Everyone who comes to Me and hears My words and acts on them, I will show you whom he is like: they are like a person building a house, who dug deep and laid a foundation on the rock; and when there was a flood, the river burst against that house and yet it could not shake it, because it had been well built. But the one who has heard and has not acted accordingly is like the one who built a house on the ground without a foundation; and the river burst against it and it immediately collapsed, and the ruin of that house was great.” (Luke 6:46-49).

And, Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of My Father who is in heaven will enter. Many will say to Me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name, and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many miracles?’ And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; leave Me, you who practice lawlessness.’ (Matthew 7:21-23).

In reality, God is pleading with us to stop the insanity and self-destruction. He loves us. He wants the best for us, which is found in Jesus Christ!

So, what is the solution if you have already committed this sin? This may be hard to hear and even more difficult to do, but it is the way to peace:

Confess your sin, your wrongdoing. Confess to God that you have sinned against Him, against your ex-spouse and against your family. Repent. That is, turn away from ever being disobedient again. Jesus will hear your prayer and forgive you and cleanse you of your unrighteousness. He loves you, unconditionally. He will not condemn you. It is your unbelief that condemns you (see John 3:17).

NOW, if you initialed or even agreed to a divorce, go and tell your ex-spouse of your transgression, and even though you may not be able to rectify or restore what is in the past, you can apologize for your sin against them and seek their forgiveness. (Please be very careful not to compound this issue if your ex-spouse is remarried or if they are violent. Use discretion).

NOTE: If you cannot safely approach, talk to or write your ex-spouse, then take this to God alone, with all sincerity and be cleansed.

Either way, you need to take this as your responsibility even if it was your ex-spouse’s behavior that drove you away (see Matthew 5:22-48). Whether they accept your apology or not, you need not entangle yourself any further. You have cleared the way to go forward with your life.

If you have not yet committed this sin, then stop, and do not do it. You made a covenant with God in your marriage vows. If you divorce you not only break a vow with your spouse, you break you covenant with God and the psychological and physical harm to you will follow.

But please don’t be like the Pharisee and try to find a way around this. Jesus called the Pharisees liars, white washed tombs (looking good but full of dead men’s bones), cheats, and murderers. Please, don’t be those things! Those things will just follow you and drag you down.

NOTE: I realize that this can be a very complicated matter. And sometimes it can be dangerous to approach your ex-spouse. If that is the case, then again I say, take this to God, confess it all to Him. He will cleanse your heart and your mind and set you free.

This is an urgent teaching that even the Church and pastors have ignored and excused for lack of understanding. They are running the risk of being just like the Pharisees!

I also know, this is a very hard teaching. But, which teachings of Jesus are not hard if we persist in living in our fleshly passions? (End Commentary Break).

Jesus Blesses Little Children

Verse 13. Then some children were brought to Him so that He would lay His hands on them and pray; and the disciples rebuked them. Verse 14. But Jesus said, “Leave the children alone, and do not forbid them to come to Me; for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” Verse 15. After laying His hands on them, He departed from there.

(Commentary Break): It seems curious that after His rebuttal to the Pharisees and His teaching on marriage and divorce, that He speaks of the children, is it not? (End Commentary Break).

The Rich Young Ruler

Verse 16. And someone came to Him and said, “Teacher, what good thing shall I do so that I may obtain eternal life?” Verse 17. And He said to him, “Why are you asking Me about what is good? There is only One who is good; but if you want to enter life, keep the commandments.” Verse 18. Then he said to Him, “Which ones?” And Jesus said, “YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT MURDER; YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY; YOU SHALL NOT STEAL; YOU SHALL NOT GIVE FALSE TESTIMONY; Verse 19. HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER; and YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.” Verse 20. The young man said to Him, “All these I have kept; what am I still lacking?” Verse 21. Jesus said to him, “If you want to be complete, go and sell your possessions and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow Me.” Verse 22. But when the young man heard this statement, he went away grieving; for he was one who owned much property.

Verse 23. And Jesus said to His disciples, “Truly I say to you, it will be hard for a rich person to enter the kingdom of heaven. Verse 24. And again I say to you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich person to enter the kingdom of God.” Verse 25. When the disciples heard this, they were very astonished and said, “Then who can be saved?” Verse 26. And looking at them, Jesus said to them, “With people this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

(Commentary Break): The young man, (also referred to as the ‘rich young ruler’), was not so much asking how he many obtain eternal life, as he is asking how he may earn his way to heaven without paying the cost. Our churches are full of people demanding an answer to this same question, regardless of their financial status. They want the benefits of salvation but resist the cost. Please, don’t be like that.

 Jesus, in his answer, uses both hyperbole and a metaphor of a camel trying to squeeze through the eye of a needle, which is something that is ridiculously impossible.

However, Jesus was actually referring to a camel and an actual needle, and that the camel is a simile for ‘every man and women, boy and girl’ and the ‘eye of the needle’ is a simile for the gate to the Kingdom of Heaven.

So, everyone who is laden with ‘the baggage and possessions of pride, high self-esteem, education, personal achievements, wealth, pedigree, education and the like cannot enter the Kingdom. All of these things must first be put aside, discarded, before entering through the ‘narrow gate’.

AN ASIDE and a NOTE: There has been a story circulating, albeit false, which purports that there is actually a gate somewhere in Jerusalem called the “eye of the needle”, through which a camel could not pass unless it stooped down and had all its baggage first removed. After dark, when the main gates were closed, travelers and merchants would have to use this smaller gate. Great sermon material, with illustrations about how we must humble ourselves and remove our baggage before entering the kingdom.

It would be quite convenient if this myth were true because it would legitimize people’s affinity for money and probably the prosperity gospel as well. If the passage is about baggage and humility and not actually about wealth, then the prosperity preachers can breathe a big sigh of relief. However, this myth has been propagated since the 11th century, and it is completely made up. There is zero evidence to show that this gate ever existed other than stories brought back from Jerusalem tours.

But what about this image, showing the eye of the needle? This wall passage did not exist when Jesus walked the earth, or anytime close to his generation. This wall was built hundreds of years after Jesus’ time. The gates of Jerusalem were destroyed in 70 A.D. and later rebuilt. Josephus, the 1st century Jewish historian, wrote about the wall in Jerusalem (excepting the western wall): “All the rest of the wall surrounding Jerusalem, was so thoroughly laid even with the ground by those that dug it up to the foundation, that there was left nothing to make those that came thither believe it Jerusalem had ever been inhabited.” So, the image would not exist in Jesus’ time.

Furthermore, the passage states that is it easier for a camel to go through the eye of “a” needle, not “the” needle. “A needle” refers to any needle. “The needle” would refer to a specific needle. This is not a mistake. Greek is an incredibly precise language, and definite articles (the) are hard to confuse with an indefinite article ‘a’.

Finally, I would point out that this type of hyperbole is common in Jewish literature and as well as other literature. Jesus, again, uses the term of a ‘narrow gate’ in Matthew 7:13-14)

Thus, it is not necessary to try to bend Jesus’ words to mean something other than what they actually meant. This is why the disciples replied with this phrase in astonishment: When the disciples heard this, they were greatly astonished and asked, “Who then can be saved?” (Matthew 19:25)

And looking at them, Jesus said to them, “With people this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” (End Commentary Break).

The Disciples’ Reward

Verse 27. Then Peter responded and said to Him, “Behold, we have left everything and followed You; what then will there be for us?” Verse 28. And Jesus said to them, “Truly I say to you, that you who have followed Me, in the regeneration when the Son of Man will sit on His glorious throne, you also shall sit upon twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel. Verse 29. And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or farms on account of My name, will receive many times as much, and will inherit eternal life. Verse 30. But many who are first will be last; and the last, first.

(Commentary Break): There are scarcely words that can better describe what Jesus has just said to Peter. This is both literal and symbolic. It is literal for Peter and the 12 apostles. It is symbolic in that we, too, will be with them, ruling with Jesus.

“And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or farms on account of My name, will receive many times as much, and will inherit eternal life.” But first, we must go through the eye of that needle! The benefit begins now and lasts for an eternity! (End Commentary Break).

This is all based on faith. You can believe it or not. It is that cut and dried, and it is that extreme.

Even though, after Jesus had risen from the dead and just before He ascended to the Father, on Jesus’ instructions, “the eleven disciples went away into Galilee, to the mountain which Jesus had appointed for them, and when they saw Him, they worshiped Him, although some doubted”, they still had enough faith to follow His instructions to come and meet Him at the mountain. All this from faith the size of a mustard seed!

Jesus accepted and used them in His cause, ministry and calling. He is still doing just that. He is still calling you and me to follow Him despite our doubts.

And we will remain with Him, and He will be with us, both now and eternally!

Just believe!

Your Brother and Friend,

Mike Young.

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A PROPHETIC WORD FROM JESUS – Whoever Divorces – Part 13

A PROPHETIC WORD FROM JESUS – Whoever Divorces – Part 13

Creative, Causative, Prophetic, Instructional

“It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” – The Words of Jesus, Matthew 5:31-32

This may be one of the most difficult subject found in The Word of God. It is another of those subjects that are so painful, extraordinarily difficult to understand, hard to accept, and most difficult to do. Most people, when reading the Bible, will choose, at their own peril, to quickly scan through teachings like this and move on to more pleasant reading.

But Jesus has included the matter of divorce in His teachings on stumbling blocks, as obstacles to the Kingdom of Heaven.

Let me say that divorce is not a singular act in and of itself. Divorce is a deadly process. A breaking point, a severing of that which had been joined together in one body. Divorce is both the culmination of what God had joined together and the beginning of .a curse that will ravage the body, soul, mind and spirit of many, even to the third and fourth generations

Jesus is continuing to teach the fulfillment of the Old Covenant, which has set us free from the bondage of the Law, giving us the right to become the children of God, joint heirs with Christ Jesus, and to be clothed with power from on High! These are the privileges of the heirs of the Kingdom of Heaven.

The Word of God is no longer just written on ‘tablets of stone’ but it is written upon the hearts of those who believe and follow Him. Jesus has set us free and dwells within us. Amazingly, He has even given us His authority to accomplish His Works through us!

Unlike Jesus’ continuing teachings on salvation, the process of sanctification and entering the Kingdom of Heaven, (Matthew chapters 5 through 11), He does not offer a solution to this obstacle of the sin of divorce. Once a divorce is complete, there is no remedy for the pain and the damage that follows. Consequences will come. The best remedy is to marry right and never divorce.

If you have been through a divorce, just remember, God is merciful, abounding in loving kindness. There is hope for healing and restoration.  Although it is not always easy, it is always worth it.  What is done, is done, and the future can be bright with opportunities and hope of peace, security and prosperity for your soul, in Christ!

Your Brother and Friend,

Mike Young

Here is important reading for Christians on the subject of Marriage and Divorce. Please do not move on without reading the referenced article.

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THE WORDS OF JESUS – What Are You To Do With Them? Part 13

Creative, Causative, Prophetic, Instructional – Part 13

“It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” – The Words of Jesus, Matthew 5:31-32

This may be one of the most difficult subject found in The Word of God. It is another of those subjects that are so painful, extraordinarily difficult to understand, hard to accept, and most difficult to do. Most people, when reading the Bible, will choose, at their own peril, to quickly scan through teachings like this and move on to more pleasant reading.

But Jesus has included the matter of divorce in His teachings on stumbling blocks, as obstacles to the Kingdom of Heaven.

Let me say that divorce is not a singular act in and of itself. Divorce is a deadly process. A breaking point, a severing of that which had been joined together in one body. Divorce is both the culmination of what God had joined together and the beginning of a curse that will ravage the body, soul, mind and spirit of many, even to the third and fourth generations.

Jesus is continuing to teach the fulfillment of the Old Covenant, which has set us free from the bondage of the Law, giving us the right to become the children of God, joint heirs with Christ Jesus, and to be clothed with power from on High! These are the privileges of the heirs of the Kingdom of Heaven.

The Word of God is no longer just written on ‘tablets of stone’ but it is written upon the hearts of those who believe and follow Him. Jesus has set us free and dwells within us. Amazingly, He has even given us His authority to accomplish His Works through us!

Unlike Jesus’ continuing teachings on salvation, the process of sanctification and entering the Kingdom of Heaven, (Matthew chapters 5 through 11), He does not offer a solution to this obstacle of the sin of divorce. Once a divorce is complete, there is no remedy for the pain and the damage that follows. Consequences will come. The best remedy is to marry right and never divorce.

If you have been through a divorce, just remember, God is merciful, abounding in loving kindness. There is hope for healing and restoration.  Although it is not always easy, it is always worth it.  What is done is done, and the future can be bright with opportunities and hope of peace, security and prosperity for your soul, in Christ!

Your Brother and Friend,

Mike Young

Here is important reading for Christians on the subject of Marriage and Divorce. Please do not move on without reading the referenced article.

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EFFECTIVE SPIRITUAL WARFARE – Ch. 12, Ep. 3 – Removing the Obstacle of Divorce

A TUTORIAL ON EFFECTIVE SPIRITUAL WARFARE

Teaching, Training & Commissioning

Chapter  12  Episode  3

REMOVING THE OBSTACLE OF DIVORCE

Commitment to the Covenant

We are told by the Holy Spirit in Romans 12:2 that, as disciples of Jesus, you are not to be conformed to this world, but you are to be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is:  that which is good and acceptable and perfect.

There are obstacles to (1) being transformed into a Child of God and (2) becoming a disciple of Jesus (3) entering the Kingdom of Heaven, now, and (4) walking in the power of His Spirit.  Galatians 5:19-21 tells us of these obstacles and that those who practice these things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

These next episodes will continue to identify these obstacles and remedies for their removal from your life.

Divorce and remarriage is a common error committed by people calling themselves “Christian”, who want the benefits of but reject the requirements of becoming a Christian as they are often overcome by fleshly or emotional desires.

(For our convenience, I have coded the Obstacle in green, the penalty in purple and the Remedy in Blue.)

Episode 3:  Removing the Obstacle of Divorce requires cooperation and commitment to the covenant of marriage.

 Matthew 5:31-32 says “WHOEVER SENDS HIS WIFE AWAY, LET HIM GIVE HER A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE’;

but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of un-chastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Jesus, first, gives us an understanding of divorce in Matthew 19:3-6 and then the remedy for divorce in Ephesians 5:21-24:

Jesus explains, in Matthew 19:3-6, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE, and said, ‘FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’?

 “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

Imagine having your arm our your leg amputated.  Can you imagine the pain and the loss?  Literally losing part of yourself would impact and affect your body, your mind, your soul and your spirit.  Please dear ones, do not deliberately wound yourself and others.

The remedy to divorce is found in Ephesians 5:21-24.  

Ephesians 5:”21-24 says “be subject to one another in the fear of Christ. Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.”

The word Greek word for “to be subject to” or “submit to” is “Hupotasso”, which literally means:

  1. To arrange under, to subordinate;
  2. To subject, put in subjection
  3. To subject one’s self, obey
  4. To submit to one’s control
  5. To yield to one’s admonition or advice
  6. To obey, be subject.
  7. To mutually agree upon

HUPO – arrange under; TASSO – mutually agree upon

The intention of “submission or subjection” is found in the CONTEXT of the words in this chapter of Ephesians which encourages us to be wise and moral, kind and pure, gentle and forgiving.

The context is also found in the meaning of the words in these verses.

Specifically, “Hupotasso” comes from a Greek military term meaning “to arrange [troop divisions] in a military fashion under the command of a leader”.

These troop formations were called a Phalanx. The Phalanx was the formation, usually in triangular form, in which The hoplite phalanx of the Archaic and Classical periods in Greece (c. 800–350 BC) was the formation in which the hoplites would line up in ranks in close order.

Hoplites were citizen-soldiers of Ancient Greek city-states who were primarily armed with spears and shields. Hoplite soldiers utilized the phalanx formation in order to be effective in war with fewer soldiers. The formation discouraged the soldiers from acting alone, for this would compromise the formation and minimize its strengths

The hoplites would lock their shields together, and the first few ranks of soldiers would project their spears out over the first rank of shields.

Those at the front were, what we would call today, THE TIP OF THE SPEAR or the POINT MAN. They presented the first defense against the enemy and were the first to engage the enemy and the first to take casualties.

The phalanx therefore presented a shield wall and a mass of spear points to the enemy. Making frontal assaults against it very difficult.

It also allowed a higher proportion of the soldiers to be actively engaged in combat at a given time, rather than just those in the front rank.

This word, “Hupotasso”, in non-military use, is “a voluntary attitude of giving in, cooperating, assuming responsibility, and carrying a burden”.

The Bible gives this as an example for husbands and wives to cooperate and to successfully navigate life and in waging wars against ‘their common enemy’, Satan.

The wife is fully engaged in the marriage relationship, but, God says the husband is to be the Tip of the Spear in order to protect and preserve and, if necessary, the first to fall.

Interestingly, Ephesians 5:22, contains the phrase, “be subject to your own”, which include the word Greek word, “idios”, and means, “uniquely one’s own, peculiar to the individual”.  “Idios” is a stronger word than the simple possessive pronoun, ‘own’.  This emphatic adjective means ‘private and personal’ “.

In other words, God gives each husband a wife, designed by God, Himself, to fulfill a role specifically for that husband. God gives the wife gifts, talents, abilities and a calling uniquely designed to serve God and to compliment and to complete the husband.

This is why the Bible says “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.

“So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself”.

It is also why God says, “Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.”

Neither, the husband nor the wife, can be made complete as persons, finding refuge, protection and provision as provided by God;  neither can they mature and sustain one another, until they understand this Spiritual principal and follow it.

Marriage has mutual strength through commitment and cooperation with one another under God’s Steady Hand.

Please take this to heart, dear ones. This message is so important.

The world and the Devil are deceiving the family in to thinking ‘what works for you is OK”. It is NOT OK. God’s design, His plan and His Word is what gives life, and life more abundant. Stop following the world and REASON through God’s Word. Understand it and live!

Your Brother and Friend,

Mike Young

PS:  Marriage makes the two into ONE.  Divorce is a violent tearing apart, no matter how amicable you try to be.

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“Removing the Obstacle of Secrecy and Lies

(The previous episode can be found at Removing the Obstacles of Lust)

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DID GOD REALLY SAY THAT?

MATTHEW 5:31,32 –  SAY, WHAT?

v31 “Now it was said, ‘WHOEVER SENDS HIS WIFE AWAY IS TO GIVE HER A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE’; 32 but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery

WHAT DOES IT SAY

The language in these verses is so plain that very little more need be said, except perhaps to comment that we should not be lulled into complacency by the brevity of this verse.  This may be THE VERSE that will save a marriage and leads to a lifetime of peace and security – for some of those who read it and/or share it.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN

(The following explanation in quotes is an excerpt from the got questions.org website.). 

First, in order for a divorce to be granted, there had to be a problem related to “indecency.” Verse 1 reads, “If then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her . . .” (ESV). The Hebrew phrase used here was generally a reference to sexual indecency such as adultery (Leviticus 18:6–18) or indecent exposure (Deuteronomy 23:14). Jewish leaders would long debate what was considered “indecent,” but the original wording clearly referred to indecent sexual behavior.

“Second, a formal divorce certificate was required: “He writes her a certificate of divorce [and] gives it to her” (verse 1). A husband could not simply express his desire to be divorced and move on with his life. He was required to provide a written legal certificate, which would have required witnesses to the event.

Third, the divorced couple was no longer to live together: the husband “sends her from his house” (verse 1). Living together as an unmarried couple was not acceptable, and a divorced couple was considered unmarried.

Fourth, the divorced woman could remarry another man: “After she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man” (verse 2). The text does not explicitly teach the woman must remarry, but neither does it prohibit a divorced woman from doing so. In that society, a single woman would have had few other options than to seek another husband or to return to her father’s household.

“Fifth, the divorced spouse could not later remarry the first partner, if that partner had remarried: “Her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again” (verse 4).

The New Testament teachings regarding divorce offer additional insight into this topic. Jesus reminded the religious leaders that God never intended divorce: “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning” (Matthew 19:8). The “beginning” refers to Adam and Eve as one man and one woman in lifelong marriage—God’s original design.

Jesus also taught that sexual immorality was one legitimate reason for divorce: “I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery” (Matthew 5:31). The apostle Paul added, “A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife” (1 Corinthians 7:10–11). Another instruction is also provided for Christians with an unbelieving spouse: “If the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances” (1 Corinthians 7:15).

Though divorce was not part of God’s original plan for marriage, sinful humanity demanded it, and the Mosaic Law addressed occasions when it was permissible. Jesus and the New Testament teachings affirm the original intent of marriage as being a lifelong relationship between a man and woman while specifying limited occasions when divorce is acceptable. “  (End of excerpt)

Although there may be times when divorce is acceptable, according to the Bible, (1) the results of divorce are still the acts of selfish and sinful men and women who are in rebellion against God and His plan for their lives (2) and, it is destructive.  The pain and damage to the family, can go on for generations

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO YOU

I can remember a day, as a young boy, when divorce was socially unacceptable, it was at best, a social embarrassment, and at worst, a divorced person was somewhat of a social  outcast.  What I didn’t understand, at the time, was why a young child of a divorced mother would be shunned.  The hurt and resentment that was being planted in my psyche which would plague me for decades.

Society at large and Christians in particular have discarded God’s Word as their Guiding Principal, and as the divorce rate in America has climbed to 50%, the damage being done to future generations in incalculable.

(NOTE:  The following are excerpts are from Focus on the family  – How could divorce affect my kids?  website)

  • Life expectancies for divorced men and women are significantly lower than for married people (who have the longest life expectancies). 
  • One study found that those who were unhappy but stayed married were more likely to be happy five years later than those who divorced.
  • The health consequences of divorce are so severe that a Yale researcher concluded that “being divorced and a nonsmoker is slightly less dangerous than smoking a pack a day and staying married.”
  • After a diagnosis of cancer, married people are most likely to recover, while the divorced are least likely to recover, indicating that the emotional trauma of divorce has a long-term impact on the physical health of the body.
  • Men and women both suffer a decline in mental health following divorce, but researchers have found that women are more greatly affected. 
  • Some of the mental health indicators impacted by divorce include depression, hostility, self-acceptance, personal growth and positive relations with others.

While virtually every child suffers the lost relationship and lost security described above, for many, the emotional scars have additional, more visible consequences. More than 30 years of research continues to reveal the negative effects of divorce on children. Most of these measurable effects are calculated in increased risks. In other words, while divorce does not mean these effects will definitely occur in your child, it does greatly increase the risks. The odds are simply against your kids if you divorce.

Research comparing children of divorced parents to children with married parents shows:

  • Children from divorced homes suffer academically. They experience high levels of behavioral problems. Their grades suffer, and they are less likely to graduate from high school. 
  • Kids whose parents divorce are substantially more likely to be incarcerated for committing a crime as a juvenile.
  • Because the custodial parent’s income drops substantially after a divorce, children in divorced homes are almost five times more likely to live in poverty than are children with married parents.
  • Teens from divorced homes are much more likely to engage in drug and alcohol use, as well as sexual intercourse, than are those from intact families. 
  • Children from divorced homes experience illness more frequently and recover from sickness more slowly. 
  • They are also more likely to suffer child abuse. 
  • Children of divorced parents suffer more frequently from symptoms of psychological distress. 
  • And the emotional scars of divorce last into adulthood.

(End of excerpt)

Additionally, statistics show that once divorced:

  • Second Marriages: 60 percent will terminate with a divorce as the result.
  • Third Marriages: 73 percent will terminate with a divorce as the result.

WHAT WILL YOU DO?

(These are 2 real-life examples of people who made decisions about marriage and divorce)

I.  My wife and I were on a cruise ship in one of their specialty restaurants waiting for our meal to be served, when the restaurant manager, a lady, came by our table to greet us.  She asked if we were celebrating any occasion.  We told here we were celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary.  The lady smiled broadly, congratulated us and asked “How did you do it?  How did you stay married for 50 years?” And laughed, as if she was communicating humor.  I assumed she laughed because so many people get divorced.

My wife, Betty, look at this lady and answered, very matter-of-factly, “Just never get a divorce.”  The lady laughed out loud.  But, when she saw my wife was not laughing, she turned serious and asked, “Really?  What do you mean?”

My wife proceed to briefly explain what the Bible says about marriage and divorce and why ‘sticking with it is worth it’.

The lady responded with, “I don’t know if I could do that.  You see, I have been in a relationship for 10 years and things aren’t working out, so we are thinking about splitting up.”

My wife asked, “You’ve been married for 10 years?

The lady answered, “Well, no, noT married.  But, we have been living together.”

My wife answer with, “Well, when you start wrong you won’t finish right.  A commitment of Marriage is an agreement, that can help you get past the tough times.  God wants you to be happy and happy in a marriage.  I’m sorry you are having a hard time.  God can help you through this, if you would like.”

The lady appeared nervous at this point, thanked my wife and said she need to attend to the other diners, and excused herself.  It seemed as if this lady had made her choice.

II.  I was out for a walk around the deck of this cruise ship one morning when I notice a couple sitting, drinking coffee and talking at one of the deck tables.  I recognized them as a couple I had seen at breakfast before we boarded the cruise ship.  They appeared to be in their early thirties.  The man had been loudly and publicly berating the woman for eating too slowly at breakfast, telling her that she would make them late boarding the ship.

I stopped and greeted them with a ‘good morning’ and they smiled and responded.  I initiated some light conversation by asking them where they were from and other small talk.  I discovered they were on their honeymoon.

I congratulated them and told them that we were celebrating our 50th anniversary.  The man remarked, “I hope we can make it that long.  What is your secret?”, he asked.

“Do you really want to know?”, I asked.  They both said yes, enthusiastically.

I sat down with them and said, “My wife and I were married in our teens.  Sometimes we would argue over small things – like you guys did at breakfast this morning.”  They both looked surprise and embarrassed.

“It’s normal to argue from time to time.  But, our marriage wasn’t going well after a few years.  We argued more and more, to the point we were drifting apart.  Then, through circumstances, we turned to God for help and we found the direction we needed.  It gave us a security and a sense of peace that got us through tough times.  Now, here we are 50 years later!

This couple agreed that what they wanted was a way to find peace and security.  I told them how to come to Jesus.  They were obviously grateful and thanked me.  I left the table, honestly feeling humbled.

It seemed, like the lady in the restaurant, they too, had made their choice.

So, what about you?  What will you do when faced with similar circumstances?  What is your choice?

I pray for us all that we have the courage and the conviction to decide to follow Jesus and find our peace and security in Him.

Your Brother and Friend,

Mike Young

PS:  If you have been through a divorce, just remember, there is hope for healing and restoring.  Although it is not always easy, it is always worth it.  What is done is done, and the future can be bright with opportunities and hope of peace, secuity and prosperity for your soul, in Christ!  Please, make the right decision.

HONOR MARRIAGE

 

AND YOU SHALL BE MY DISCIPLES – Lesson #31-a

  • Honor Marriage

“And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE,   and said, ‘FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’?

 “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matthew 19:3–6).

WHAT DOES IT MEAN?

Jesus is quoting the Old Testament, Genesis 2:24.  From the time of creation, God has said that marriage is the joining of two people, a man and a woman, through a covenant relationship, into ONE person. 

A man and a woman, separate, yet ONE.

A more detailed explanation of why it should be as God has said and HOW WE CAN find life & peace by way of God’s design for marriage is found in the book of Ephesians.

Ephesians 5:”21 and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ.

22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.

The word Greek word for “to be subject to” or “submit to” is “Hupotasso”, which literally means:

  1. To arrange under, to subordinate;
  2. To subject, put in subjection
  3. To subject one’s self, obey
  4. To submit to one’s control
  5. To yield to one’s admonition or advice
  6. To obey, be subject.
  7. To mutually agree upon

HUPO – arrange under; TASSO – mutually agree upon

The intention of “submission or subjection” is found in the CONTEXT of the words in this chapter of Ephesians which encourages us to be wise and moral, kind and pure, gentle and forgiving.

The context is also found in the meaning of the words in these verses.

Specifically, “Hupotasso” comes from a Greek military term meaning “to arrange [troop divisions] in a military fashion under the command of a leader”.

These troop formations were called a Phalanx. The Phalanx was the formation, usually in triangular form, in which The hoplite phalanx of the Archaic and Classical periods in Greece (c. 800–350 BC) was the formation in which the hoplites would line up in ranks in close order.

Hoplites were citizen-soldiers of Ancient Greek city-states who were primarily armed with spears and shields. Hoplite soldiers utilized the phalanx formation in order to be effective in war with fewer soldiers. The formation discouraged the soldiers from acting alone, for this would compromise the formation and minimize its strengths

The hoplites would lock their shields together, and the first few ranks of soldiers would project their spears out over the first rank of shields.

Those at the front were, what we would call today, THE TIP OF THE SPEAR or the POINT MAN. They presented the first defense against the enemy and were the first to engage the enemy and the first to take casualties.

The phalanx therefore presented a shield wall and a mass of spear points to the enemy. Making frontal assaults against it very difficult.

It also allowed a higher proportion of the soldiers to be actively engaged in combat at a given time rather than just those in the front rank.

This word, “Hupotasso”,

In non-military use,

is “a voluntary attitude of giving in, cooperating, assuming responsibility, and carrying a burden”.

The Bible gives this as an example for husbands and wives to cooperate and to successfully navigate life and in waging wars against ‘their common enemy’, Satan.

The wife is fully engaged in the marriage relationship, but, God says the husband is to be the Tip of the Spear in order to protect and preserve and, if necessary, the first to fall.

Interestingly, Ephesians 5:22, “be subject to your own” uses the word “idios” which means, uniquely one’s own, peculiar to the individual. It is “stronger than the simple possessive pronoun (‘own’). This emphatic adjective means ‘private, personal’ “.

God gives each husband a wife, designed by God, Himself, to fulfill a role specifically for that husband. God gives the wife gifts, talents, abilities and a calling uniquely designed to serve God and to compliment and to complete the husband.

This is why the Bible says “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.

“So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself”.

It is also why God says, “Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.”

Neither, the husband nor the wife, can be made complete as persons, finding refuge, protection and provision as provided by God well as the God given ability to mature and sustain one another, until they understand this Spiritual principal and follow it.

Marriage has mutual strength through commitment and cooperation with one another under God’s Steady Hand.

Please take this to heart, dear ones. This message is so important.

The world and the Devil are deceiving the family in to thinking ‘what works for you is OK”. It is NOT OK. God’s design, His plan and His Word is what gives life, and life more abundant. Stop following the world and REASON through God’s Word. Understand it and live!

Your Brother and Friend,

Mike Young

PS:  Marriage makes the two into ONE.  Divorce is a violent tearing apart, no matter how amicable you try to be.

Imagine having your arm our your leg amputated.  Can you imagine the pain and the loss?  Literally losing part of yourself would impact and affect your body, your mind, your soul and your spirit.

Please dear ones, do not deliberately wound yourself and others.

(MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE)

 

MARRIAGE & DIVORCE?

 

AND YOU SHALL BE MY DISCIPLES – Lesson #31-b

  • Marriage & Divorce?

“Some Pharisees came to Jesus, testing Him and asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?

“And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE,   and said, ‘FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’?

 “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matthew 19:3–6).

WHAT DOES IT MEAN?

So, what is the question?  Some Pharisees came to Jesus, testing Him. So, they asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?”

Before we get to Jesus’ answer, let’s take a quick look at the real motive.

The Greek for “testing” is “periazo”, which means to test one maliciously, craftily to put to the proof his feelings or judgments, to try or test one’s faith, virtue, character, by enticement to sin, to solicit to sin.  This is the epitome of evil.  Tempting Jesus, the Son of God, God Incarnate, to sin.

So, the question posed by the Pharisees was asked under guise of divorce, but, the intent was to maliciously TEST (periazo) the Son of God in order to tempt Him to sin.

This is the same word used when was Jesus led up of the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted (periazo) of the devil. (Matthew 4:1)  The devil tempted (periazo) Jesus as a man on three levels:  Bread for the body, the Well being in the soul and the ego of the spirit of man.   Jesus rejected the temptation as a testimony and a teaching.  He testified to the sufficiency of God His Father.

This is Christ’s example for all Christians:

  1. ‘MAN SHALL NOT LIVE ON BREAD ALONE, BUT ON EVERY WORD THAT PROCEEDS OUT OF THE MOUTH OF GOD.’”
  2. ‘YOU SHALL NOT PUT THE LORD YOUR GOD TO THE TEST.’”
  3.  ‘YOU SHALL WORSHIP THE LORD YOUR GOD, AND SERVE HIM ONLY.’”

The Pharisees and the devil were consorts in many ways.  In this case, they were complicit in an ultimate evil, that is, the temptation of the Son of God to sin.

Now, just for you information, here is a quick review of the Jewish views on divorce:

The rabbis of the Talmud considered marriage a holy contract, and the dissolution of marriage an unholy act. They quote the prophet Malachi, “. . .the Lord has been witness between you and your wife of your youth against whom you have dealt treachorously, though she is your companion, the wife of your covenant” (2:14). Jewish Oral Law added in Sanhedrin (22a), “Even [G-d] shares tears when anyone divorces his wife.”  https://www.jewishvirtuallibrary.org/divorce-in-judaism

Aaron Moss, in ‘The Jewish View of Divorce’ says, “When a couple gets married in a Jewish wedding ceremony, their souls become one. It is like a spiritual operation that takes separate beings and fuses them into a new whole. The Jewish divorce ceremony is the reverse of this. It is a spiritual amputation, severing one part of the united soul from the other, creating two separate beings.  Divorce, like an amputation, is a tragedy, but sometimes it’s the right thing to do. Our attitude to divorce parallels our attitude to the amputation of a limb in several ways…  https://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/387647/jewish/Jewish-View-of-Divorce.htm

But, what is God’s view on divorce?

Matthew 19:4  “And He (Jesus) answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE, 5and said, ‘FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’? 6“So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” 7They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to GIVE HER A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE AND SEND her AWAY?” 8He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way. 9“And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

How about you?  What is your view of divorce? 

Have your ever asked the question, “Is divorce OK”?  Are you thinking about getting a divorce?  Are you are tempting the Son of God with these intentions?

Divorce is a complicated and serious matter.  It will affect you and those around you on all levels: 

  • You body is affected,
  • your soul and mind are affected and
  • your spirit is injured. 

Divorce is sin in the eyes of God.  And, sin is to miss the mark of God’s plan of a purposeful, meaningful life and life with peace (Romans 8:6).

Life can be tough enough without causing deliberate damage to yourself and to others.  Finding the way to a life full of purpose and peace be difficult.  So, call on God and let Him light your path and follow Him in all your ways.

Matthew 7:13 

“Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it. 14“For the gate is small and the way is narrow that leads to life, and there are few who find it.

Now, it is your turn:

HOW MUST YOU DO IT?

HOW YOU MUST TEACH IT?

Your Brother and Friend,

Mike Young

PS:  Have you been divorced?  I was divorced before becoming a Christian.  I know the pain and the regret.  But, remember that God is merciful and quick to forgive those who have been divorced and turn away from sin and ask Him for forgiveness.

I did that and thankfully, I was remarried to the same woman, right after we both came to Christ.  We have been married 53 years, now.

A woman once asked my wife “How have you managed to stay (re)married for all these years?”  My wife responded with, “Just never get a divorce!”

It sounds simple, but it is not.  It take commitment, some hard work and sacrifice.  And, it is worth it.

(HONOR MARRIAGE)